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"Depression is humiliating. It turns intelligent, kind people into zombies who can’t wash a dish or change their socks. It affects the ability to think clearly, to feel anything, to ascribe value to your children, your lifelong passions, your relative good fortune. It scoops out your normal healthy ability to cope with bad days and bad news, and replaces it with an unrecognizable sludge that finds no pleasure, no delight, no point in anything outside of bed. You alienate your friends because you can’t comport yourself socially, you risk your job because you can’t concentrate, you live in moderate squalor because you have no energy to stand up, let alone take out the garbage. You become pathetic and you know it. And you have no capacity to stop the downward plunge. You have no perspective, no emotional reserves, no faith that it will get better. So you feel guilty and ashamed of your inability to deal with life like a regular human, which exacerbates the depression and the isolation. If you’ve never been depressed, thank your lucky stars and back off the folks who take a pill so they can make eye contact with the grocery store cashier. No one on earth would choose the nightmare of depression over an averagely turbulent normal life. It’s not an incapacity to cope with day to day living in the modern world. It’s an incapacity to function. At all. If you and your loved ones have been spared, every blessing to you. If depression has taken root in you or your loved ones, every blessing to you, too. No one chooses it. No one deserves it. It runs in families, it ruins families. You cannot imagine what it takes to feign normalcy, to show up to work, to make a dentist appointment, to pay bills, to walk your dog, to return library books on time, to keep enough toilet paper on hand, when you are exerting most of your capacity on trying not to kill yourself. Depression is real. Just because you’ve never had it doesn’t make it imaginary. Compassion is also real. And a depressed person may cling desperately to it until they are out of the woods and they may remember your compassion for the rest of their lives as a force greater than their depression. Have a heart. Judge not lest ye be judged."

Depression is not a synonym for being sad or having a bad day/bad week. (via keikokaveri)

and I wish people that have never dealt with depression would keep their judgement to themselves…

(Source: sherunsfromdarkness, via keikokaveri)

For Gethard - Anonymous asks: Gethard I know you’ve talked bout depression and anxiety issues before and if you don’t answer this cause it’s a complete downer i understand but I’m curious if you ever had suicidal thoughts. I admire you and your show and have just been in a really bad place lately. I used to see your show as the last thing I had to look forward to but I haven’t even been back for months and can’t even bring myself out the door to get there without panicking. I’d appreciate any advice really.

thechrisgethardshow:

I just got this message and am going to answer it. Anonymous, this one is just for you, but since this came into our inbox anonymously I have to post it publicly. My apologies. I feel very unsure of if this is right to post this, but I want to help if I can. Anyone else can feel free to skip reading this one. - Geth

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For Gethard - Anonymous asks: Gethard I know you’ve talked bout depression and anxiety issues before and if you don’t answer this cause it’s a complete downer i understand but I’m curious if you ever had suicidal thoughts. I admire you and your show and have just been in a really bad place lately. I used to see your show as the last thing I had to look forward to but I haven’t even been back for months and can’t even bring myself out the door to get there without panicking. I’d appreciate any advice really.

thechrisgethardshow:

I just got this message and am going to answer it. Anonymous, this one is just for you, but since this came into our inbox anonymously I have to post it publicly. My apologies. I feel very unsure of if this is right to post this, but I want to help if I can. Anyone else can feel free to skip reading this one. - Geth

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#XD30 my wordpress is acting up so I will use tumbler.

Today is Friday. Best day of the week. Not much to write today. All I know is weight I’ve been feeling on my shoulders slowly feels like it is lifting. I don’t know what God has in store for me but I’m just going to let him have his way. May post an actual story later

becomingtiffany.com/2012/09/04/silence-the-new-noise/
via http://slices.me

Fresh Start

Yooo… Just some stuff I want to say

I’ve started this blog so I can have an outlet for subjects I hold my tongue on. Problem was I had a lot of things going on at the time and honestly I forgot about it.

It has already been one hell of a year.
I’ve made mistakes and owned up to them. I’ve also done a ton of good.
I’ve learned a lot about myself as a woman. I’ve learned about love. I’ve learned about people. I’m continuing to learn about God.

This morning I woke up and the question that has been weighing on my mind & heart was more prevalent than ever. “At this point in your life, what will make you happy?”

I LOVE HELPING PEOPLE! The people that know me best know that I am truly one of nicest most giving people you could ever meet, even if you don’t deserve it. I’ve been hurt more than I’ve even told my mom but I have never shown the hurt. I’ve always been “The Strong One”…..But now I feel like me being ‘there’ all the time has hindered my personal growth. Been spending so much time making others happy that I’ve neglected my own.

So at least for the time being, I am going to focus on ME. What makes ‘Tara” happy.

I plan to blog daily for a while. This #XD30 has really inspired me.
Expect an array of topics. Love, Sports, Music, Sex, God, Humor, Politics, Travel.
Ask questions…pretty much an open book these days.

RockWitMe

Evolution Of A Queen: TW: R*pe and sexual assault. Quotes by GOP members about r*pe →

strugglingtobeheard:

Really, don’t read if you are triggered by rape apologism and medical industries lying about how rape works. Ok, so on point radio was talking about Todd Akin’s comments about legitimate rape. And I saw this comment on facebook that was really good. A man named Richard…

This is scary. These men are making rules for our country.

becuzur:

belovelyessence:

Perfection.

I need a bookcase…

becuzur:

belovelyessence:

Perfection.

I need a bookcase…

(Source: teachingliteracy, via queennubian)

escapedgoat:

ramblingsofanurbanjawn:

lacaagbathaan:

fleurdelalune:

amuzed1:

fuckyeahfamousblackgirls:

Clair Huxtable sets Elvin straight

I love how Cliff just sits down as soon as Elvin opens his mouth. 

#perfect #flawless

Mama Huxtable is my spirit animal

This is one of my very favorite scenes from this show. 

My idol

When Cliff sits down »»»

(via escapedgoat)

introvertedjerk:

socialismartnature:

“Reggie was driving with a suspended license and he got this done to his face by the police in Polk County, now they didn’t write him a ticket for that but sent him packing right to the county jail, he didn’t receive any medical treatment and the Sheriff’s office has refused to allow me to see him.
” … Ok I have just spoken with a family friend who states to me that 3 of his teeth were knocked out and they refused to take him to the hospital and witness state the police taser him in the back of the head”




No words.

introvertedjerk:

socialismartnature:

“Reggie was driving with a suspended license and he got this done to his face by the police in Polk County, now they didn’t write him a ticket for that but sent him packing right to the county jail, he didn’t receive any medical treatment and the Sheriff’s office has refused to allow me to see him.

” … Ok I have just spoken with a family friend who states to me that 3 of his teeth were knocked out and they refused to take him to the hospital and witness state the police taser him in the back of the head”

No words.